For the Love of Wisdom

Posted by bamertz on August 7, 2007 · Leave a Comment

The effects of Philosophy. Tsk.Too much rationalizing. Hehe.

I can’t help but purge my brain for something insightful. That’s what I usually do when I have nothing else to do. I think.

And with those thinking sessions, I came up with something worth reflecting to. For me.

Love is a choice. It is, primarily and basically, a choice. It is you who decides whether to love or not. You can fall in love with anybody. Falling in love is different to love itself. Everyone has a notion of love. Some people may categorize love as an inexplainable emotion felt with someone. The way their hearts skip a beat, or when they feel that “somebody takes their breath away”. If someone satisfies your idea of love, you may have fallen in love with that person. But then again, there is a nuance to the situation. Falling in love becomes a myth in search for true love.

You can fall in in love with different people. You can even fall in love with more than one at the same time. So how can you say that you LOVE the person and you’re not simply IN love with him?

Here enters the notion of choice. You choose. You choose whether you would want to love that person or not.

Love is never a happy word. Love is coterminous with suffering, pain, and sacrifice. And that is what makes it a choice. When you choose to accept a person despite EVERYTHING, that is love. When you choose to love, you CHOOSE to be hurt. You CHOOSE to suffer. You CHOOSE to sacrifice.

Love is sacred. And so is commitment. Commitment symbolizes the decision to love. You can love a person without committing, but you can never commit yourself to that person without love. Commitment marks love. It symbolizes your decision. Commitment in a relationship need not to be hard work. It does not require anything but love. That itself is enough.

Love is willing. Love is rare. It does not happen all the time. It does not happen in an instant. It takes time. Because it takes time to decide.

So how do you realize that you LOVE someone? You don’t know it.

You just do.