“Ten Things Women Should Consider When Dating Men”
Are you the kind of person who is very choosy when it comes to dating? And are you the kind of woman who at the early stage of dating course, end a booming relationship even without knowing the person any further whom you are dating? I know most of us just want to meet a nice man who has great potential to become a lover, someone we can fall in-love with and eventually marry and share the rest of our life with, are we not?
Yah, I hear and understand you girls, very much so… I am one with you. In all honesty, I am losing hope with the declining number of great single men in the love market nowadays. Or are we just afraid of meeting those jerks who will just make us fall in-love and then when we are so already dependent on them, and seem like we cannot live without them, will suddenlly leave our broken hearts spilled on the ground? Ouch! I know nobody wants to be in that state of emotions anymore… ever again!! Because of this, sometimes some of us becomes commitment-phobic.
According to Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, the author of “Kosher Sex”, there are two kinds of people who are commitment-phobic: one is passive commitment-phoebe, it is a person who hinders a passionate romantic attachment even before it grows by dating unsuitable persons, and the other one is the active commitment- phoebe, who gets afraid and constantly looking for ways to get out once the relationship tends to get more serious. Are you one of these? I know, nobody is perfect. Some of you may have dated men who in the middle of your conversation answers his phone, or a workaholic, or not close to his family. For some people, these signs could be red flags.
They are not bad persons nor full of imperfections , adds Rabbi Shmuley. Seeing all these flaws in them all comes down to fear: you’re afraid that something may happen along the way. But the truth is, love and fear are two opposite sides. Love will bring out the best in you through trust, and will make you connect with other people while fear makes you draw back from others. Probably you heard this so many times in your life, but I think it is one of the best ways to do if you want to attract that positive love attraction…. Hear it again when I say, stop being fearful when love comes knocking in your door. Give it another chance and stop overanalyzing. Just go for it, girls, and everything will be alright if you are with the right person. Who does not to fall in-love, after all?
Stop being negative and look for these essential traits that will let you know that the one you are dating is the Right One..
1. Does he show humility not only in front of you or he is the one who is occupied of talking only about himself and all his achievements?
2. Does he show polished manners and treats you with respect or he does not care and cut you off when you are talking?
3. Is he man enough to say his apologies when he hurts you or does not care if he made a mistake?
4. Does he give his full attention when the two of you are together or are his eyes are constatly in the look out for other women?
5. Does he show tolerance in the presence of children?
6. Does he treat anyone with respect such as waiters or any servicemen?
7. Does he present himself in public in a solemn, stately and pleasing attitude or does he get intoxicated in public and curse everyone?
8. Does he share his wealth to charity?
9. When you tell him to reconsider his relationship with his family, does he listen to you?
10. When it comes to money and paying the bills, does he initiate to pay or lets you pay half the bill?
Take this test and see if the man you’re dating scored at least 7 points, that means he passed. He may not be the perfect man but surely he is good enough to be considered your Mr. Right..
Hope this helps you, Sisters!!!!
