“My Horrible Experience With my Cousin’s Wife”

What are your primary reasons why you write? Do you get money out of it or it is just for plain pleasure for seeing your blogs being read by other people? Maybe, maybe not. As for me, I write because I want to vent out my feelings and thoughts, whether they are sad, negative, happy, or destructive ones. I just want to write that’s all. For a person who lives a very mind-numbing life, it is not surprising that I do not have so much to write about except about myself and my experiences in everyday basis. Speaking of which, something has just come up into my mind and prompted me to write about it. It is about the wife ( I don’t know if they are already legally married though), of my cousin’s who I really do not know in terms of her dealings with other people because I have not seen her nor talked to her for more than a decade for several reasons. Anyway, the first time I got to talk to her was almost two years ago, at my cousin’s wedding. Of course, most of our relatives came to witness that event. One of my male cousins is quite close to her that one time he encouraged me to go to their house somewhere in Cainta. The first encounter was great; my cousin’s wife was really accommodating and hospitable. One time, she even invited me to go with them in going to Bicol for the “All Saint’s Day” observance, which I gladly accepted.

Everything went well during that 3-day stay in Bicol. We continued communicating and we even agreed on meeting one Sunday afternoon in one of the malls in Makati. From the very beginning we started talking, there is one thing that I noticed about her. She always borrow money from me. Well, I thought that was fine, if I could afford it, I will lend her, provided of course, that she pays me back. When we were still in Bicol for our 3-day “All Saint’s Day” vacation, she already borrowed me 1,000 pesos in total, which I told her not to pay me anymore because I felt that it was only proper of me to chip in for the gas and other expenses. I am not sure though up to this day, if my cousin knew about that money. Few weeks after that, she borrowed money from me again in the pretext that one of her sisters was in the hospital and that her family really needed money. So, being soft-hearted, I lent her money once again, which she promised to pay after one week, which she failed to do so unfortunately. She was able to pay me back after two weeks or so. It was fine with me because I was not really in need of money that time.

Fast forward to late April of 2008. I was going to a mall in Makati when I received a missed call from her. I sent her a text message and asked her why she called me. “oh nothing”, she said, and asked me where I was. I said I was about to go to this particular mall in Makati. And then she said, “oh really?” I will be there as well to meet one of my friends, replied she. Do you want to meet up? I said, why not, sure! So, there, together with her super cute son, we met. we ate and talked for several hours about her past disappointing experiences which I think still haunts her up to this day. Anyway, that’s another story that I don’t want to tackle. Anyway, it turned out that she was just making some kind of entertainment for me to enjoy because when I finally let her know that I should be going home already, she suddenly grabbed my arm and whispered to my ear and told me if I could let her borrow money again. To be honest, I did not have much money that time, but because of my respect for my cousin and love for her adorable kids, I gave in. This time, her reason why she’s borrowing money is because, her brother needed the money, I don’t remember what for. She promised to pay after a week, again!

So, I was expecting her to pay me first week of May. Well, guess what? it’s already October and I have not heard from her after that. In fairness to her, when I told her that I needed that money which she borrowed from me, she called me to confirm that she was going to pay me back already. The day we agreed on was Saturday, and that we will meet again in Makati so she can give me the money. On Friday night, I sent her a text message just to re-confirm the meeting the following day. She did not reply. On Saturday morning, I sent her a message again which she ignored. Just the same I went to the place where we agreed on to meet. Thanks God, she did not show up and up to this day, she no longer answer my text messages.

Speaking of behavior ha. I was and am still disappointed with her actions towards me that I want to curse her and call her names. Only my respect for my cousin, her hubby, and my love for her children refrain me from doing that, although I know that I have all the rights to do that. This is not the issue of money anymore, it is her horrible deeds that I abhor. She should have face and enough courage to tell me that she has no money to pay me right now, that I would definitely understand. But she has done otherwise and that is so unacceptable. At least now I know that money is her weakness and that I already deleted her from my friends’ list. If you were in the same situation as me, what would have you done? Would you tell her husband what she has done to you or just leave the thing like that?